This is good advice.

Also a lot of people really drop the ball when they do get a match. Some hot advice because a lot of people out there seem to need help.

• ask questions. If someone asks you "did you see the Barbie movie?" do not just reply yes or no. That's not how this game works. Try "No, but I heard it was really good. What did you think?". Open ended questions are better. Imagine you are playing catch. Their question is the ball. You caught it. Nice! Now fucking throw it back.

• ask people out on a date*. do not ask them to come directly to your home. Dates do not have to be expensive. Drinks, coffee, snacks in the park, whatever. So long as it's public and lets you actually talk, you're good.

  • do not message for days before asking out. People are capricious and they're going to forget about you if you're just a blip in tinder. If you are too nervous to ask someone out, delete the app until you're ready to date.
  • the above is from the perspective of a man who doesn't date men. I can't speak to other experiences as confidently.

• put stuff you want to talk about in your profile. Do not leave your profile blank. Do not be "clever" by writing "no one reads this" or "I'm really two lizards in a coat." Your profile is your ad copy. Your profile holds your story hooks. Give the other person something to work with. "I love my friends" is not going to start a good conversation.