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I can acknowledge that you're partially correct. What I was suggesting was geared towards preventing people from acting in negative impulses. Basically, your brain thinking "no, don't do creepy shit."
But with your example, exercising rationality actually would help, because "the sadness that comes from seeing couples in public or among your friends and knowing that you’ll never experience what they’re doing" is actually an irrational thought.
There's no reason to assume this is actually the case. It's a self fulfilling prophecy that's easily dispelled by recognizing that you're actually capable of having that experience. Some proper therapy can help replace those intrusive thoughts with more empowering ones!
Edit: fixed an autocorrect issue that changed my intended meaning. Sorry.
First off, thank you for engaging critically with my comments rather than dismissing them :) I apologize for the delayed response, I had to sort my thoughts about this.
Isn’t it kind of an example of what you stated in the previous paragraph? By acknowledging that women don’t see me as a potential partner, my brain is preventing me from hurting women by showing my romantic interest. While I could try to combat this thought, it would not be in the best interest of others.
On the contrary, wanting a partner is an irrational thought because it ultimately comes from the natural instinct to reproduce. Hypothetically, if I were asexual, I could just live a fulfilling life alone and everyone would be better off.