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How do you accept the things you cannot change?
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You're at this from the complete opposite of the right angle.
Your reaction is emotional and thus you need to face the emotion and dig at its cause. Emotions aren't bound by rationality but they're the core of the human experience, to try and suffocate away emotion you don't find rational is a sure way to never find happiness.
You felt hurt, why? Why was this argument important to you? Did you feel anything more than hurt? Can you guess at why you felt like you felt?
Feelings are never right or wrong, they just are and will be no matter what you think of them. So you need to accept and acknowledge their existence and learn to understand them, to coexist with them, because they are you. Even more so than your skill in reasoning, your rationality.