agree, but it's not just lemmy, it's every social media site. On bigger ones like reddit it's just easier to only interact with specific groups. lemmy has the problem of being very small, so if a bunch of people leave it will hurt more. It feels like this conflict has always been unique in how polarizing it is.

I think I needed to hear this, thank you

So glad I don't have to use Windows at work

I fully agree. User accounts should be separate and content should not automatically be hosted on all linked instances. It's not scalable and will only lead to endless defederations.