We're talking about two different problems.

The one that I'm talking about is Reddit admins being clearly hostile towards the community, including mods, and the mods still being willing to lick the admins' boots, instead of migrating their comms to another site. Even at the expense of the userbases of the subreddits that they moderate.

Here in Lemmy this shit does not roll - both because it's easier to migrate comms across instances, and because the userbase is mostly composed of people with low tolerance towards admin abuse.

Now, regarding the problem that you've spotted: yes, it is a problem here that boils down to

1. Lack of transparency: plenty mods and admins here have a nasty tendency to enforce hidden rules - because actually writing those rules down would piss off the userbase.
2. Excessive polarisation and oversimplification of some topics, mostly dealing with recent events. (Such as the one that we both were talking about not too long ago.)

I am really not sure on how to compare the extent of both issues in Lemmy vs. Reddit, nor how to address them here, and thus to get rid of the problem that you're noticing.