Alright, I think I get it now. Thanks. I didn't really consider the long term consequences. As it's still alien for me, but reading your story I'm thankful.

I remember being bullied in 1st grade as well. But I also remember that after a while I just didn't care what they were saying, and they stopped. I guess I wasn't fun to mess with anymore. This led to me joining the "cool kids". And in my social circle we also know that bullying is bad, but I also see the side where kids who get bullied did something to get bullied. In elementary I remeber two kids, who we hated.

With person A; I was very good friends with A. Soon I learned that I was his only friend. But the extrovert I am, I tryied meeting new ppl from class. (This was like 2nd grade, idk why I remember this well). And this mf started acting out. I remember clearly that he dragged me out of a circle where I was talking, led me to the other side of the classroom. And had nothing to say, just wanted us to be alone. I honestly just told him that it was wierd and went back. Instead of joining in the circle or just talking to me when I'm not with other ppl, he dragged me away again. To say nothing, he did this like every day. It's not like I ditched him, we were still playing and talking almost the same, he just didn't let me talk to any other kids. When I did anyways he got upset. After like a half or full year of this it started getting really annoying, and I started telling him strongly to stop. He didn't. So he became disliked and bullied. Even now I have no idea what his deal was, even if he's gay, this ain't the way. And just to note, we were good friends, went to each others' place almost every week. I'm really sorry for him.

Person B; 5th grade. The same friendship story, but with my friend. B and by friend went way back. But when B joined our group of friends, he wanted to impress everyone. But he really didn't have anything to stand out. We kinda liked the guy, so it wasn't like he needed to be special, but he wanted to be anyways. This led him to lie. He lied about everything, what games he playes, what cool things he owns, what skills he can do. And it always cought up with him. For a solid year we were telling him to just stop lying about everything, and asked why he was doing it. That got nowhere, "I'm not" was the answer. And he kept lying about everything. We couldn't trust him at all, with anything. So we stopped talking with him. Made fun of him when his lies was so obvious it was embarassing. Still didn't stop. He got bullied too.

These are my bullying stories, from the other side. Thankfully at highschool we ain't bullying noone. Someone still left school because of it tho. Different story, 99% sure she was schizo.

If I were more educated or know what I know today. I might have guessed something like A is just gay. Or B has attension problems. But it's not like you can teach these concepts to a group of 2nd and 5th graders. Or expect them to know for that matter. So while I understand what you're saying. Thank you again for the stories. It's very alien to me, and I'd wanted to share why. I hope you're doing OK, and I also hope the mentioned ppl are doing fine too. I'd just like to note again, that I liked both kids, they did something that they shouldn't have. For a long period of time. Didn't stop when warned. And I lost friendships.