Never pass up an opportunity to sit down or relieve yourself. 95% of everything is crap, so appreciate it when you find the 5%.
Being a Jack of all trades may mean being a master of none, but it's still better than to be a master of one.
Learn to recognize when you're responding defensively to a statement made by those around you.
-There wrong about me, they're the problem
- I'm fine i don't bed to listen to that
- etc...
Think about it for a few days, once you're over the initial emotional reaction. Be critical of your own response and contemplate the motivation for the statement
- is it out of care for you or manipulation
- Is it honest or malicious?
- Are they expressing a need?
That's when you have the greatest opportunity to grow as a person and build deeper relationships. It's also when you have an opportunity to break your mindset and get out of malicious ones.
Be athletic, assertive, and able to master at least one form of swordsmanship. Only then can you take down the one who killed your father.
My life might be different than yours. But several kung fu movies are about that so I’m not sure if it’s universal or just me.
Mind your business
give up
Could you expand on your second rule? What do you mean by "never tell the whole truth"?
Your own feelings matter too.
Care about yourself first and then care about others after.
Esp true if the oxygen mask falls down on a flight.
Treat others how you want to be treated. The single universal golden rule.
Pay attention even when it hurts to do so. Especially when it hurts to do so.
Enjoy it while it lasts.
"To be an adult, you need to know when it is apropriate to be childish"
"Never paint the devil on the wall, unless he stands in the hallway, so make sure you have some paint at home"
"Honesty lasts longest"
The first advice here basically boils down to "remember to have fun in a responsible manner", I like the original phrasing better as is more fun and also implies as shitload more knowledge.
The second advice is a modified version of a Swedish saying, it boils down to, "don't expect the worst, but if it happens, take notes and learn, oh and you should have a pen and notebook at home". I like this as well as it again tells you to relax, but learn from mistakes and be prepared to learn from them.
The third advice is just common sense, life just gets so much easier if you act and speak honestly, this obviously doesn't mean to be brutaly honest or blatantly selfish as long as you are honest. But rather avoid situations that would require you to lie.
EDIT:
I just thought about another peice of advice:
"If you have nothing to hide, then you can't be trusted"
We all have secrets, some are just embarrasing, others can destroy lives, stating that you have nothing to hide is one of the worst ways to try and gain trust, since it means one of two things:
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You are a liar, as previously stated everyone has things to hide, so you are just plain lying.
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You won't keep a secret, if asked you will tell others priveleged information given to you.
Question: Is being a good listener about not speaking or about making sure the other person feels heard and understood no matter how that might present itself for that individual?
When you think about who you want to be be as vague as possible. Too specific and you might pigeon-hole yourself. It will be much easier to adjust bad surface level habits and ideas when they haven’t cemented themselves as core to your sense of being.
Chase the “why” more than the “what” and you’ll be able to be more versatile. You might find yourself to be kinder, stronger, more supportive, and be able to really trust in who you are at your core.
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