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You're just a kid, how would you know what you want for the rest of your life? (lemmy.world)

submitted 7 months ago by Custoslibera@lemmy.world to c/memes@lemmy.ml

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[-] Tristaniopsis@aussie.zone 10 points 7 months ago

At 53 with a partner and two kids, I am currently in deep, deep depression wishing that I’d married the girl I split up with at 24.

[-] Custodian1623@lemmy.world 9 points 7 months ago

no shame in therapy if you haven't been

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[-] FellowEnt@sh.itjust.works 10 points 7 months ago

Kinda had an affair with a woman who married at 24 and regretted not 'playing the field'. She ended up getting pregnant with her husband shortly after and I really hope they make it last, but I have a horrible feeling it was a doomed attempt to fix their relationship with a child.

[-] Lifebandit666@feddit.uk 10 points 7 months ago

Met my now wife in high school. We've been together since high school.

We've been married for 5 years now.

I'm 40 next.

So kinda agree with the post, but not the sentiment that if you met your partner early you're weird. I was lucky I met the love of my life so young. Just because you didn't doesn't mean I'm weird, just not as lucky as me.

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[-] Arfman@aussie.zone 9 points 7 months ago

At that age I was only interested in gaming. Don't know how people have the facility to form long term relationships

[-] Wanderer@lemm.ee 8 points 7 months ago

I think anyone that refers to an adult as a child is weird.

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[-] Enekk@lemmy.world 8 points 7 months ago

Met my wife in highschool and got married right out of college. We are now pushing 40 and are still happy and content. We were lucky, we grew together and in similar ways, but we also just knew when we knew. We even had twins a few years back and even the stress of that didn't destroy us.

We (hopefully) still have many years together and maybe things will break down, but, so far, neither of us regret marrying so young.

[-] rotopenguin@infosec.pub 7 points 7 months ago

I don't trust anybody that isn't a wizard.

[-] TenderfootGungi@lemmy.world 7 points 7 months ago

While I also feel it is weird, I strongly believe marrying kids (<18) should be illegally nationally with no exceptions. I have personally witnessed lives destroyed.

[-] Zacryon@feddit.de 7 points 7 months ago

Putting arbitrary numbers on people to measure their matureness is weird to me.

There are 15 year old people who are wiser and more mature than a lot with 50.

You can't know without knowing the person.

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[-] Spacehooks@reddthat.com 7 points 7 months ago

I don't think ppl getting married is wierd before 24 risky sure. Having kids before 24 is crazy. Like 2 years in workforce at minimum. Barely time to be able an adult before a parent.

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[-] ColeSloth@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 7 months ago

As people wait longer to marry over the generations, the divorce rate has increased and level of "happiness" has declined.

Causation yadda yadda yadda. You still can't actually disprove its why.

[-] pingveno@lemmy.ml 5 points 7 months ago

The divorce rate among millennials is decreasing in the US compared to earlier generations. That said, reducing it to how long people are waiting to marry ignores a lot of other factors. For instance, low income couples are more likely to never marry, their relationships are less stable, and if they do get married they are more likely to get divorced.